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Bryan Fergason (NV) / Nevada / Standard

Less Worry Equals More Happy

In this day and age, there are seemingly endless things we could be worried about. Every direction we turn seems to present another catalyst that triggers a worrisome thought. Sadly, nowadays a lot of people have conditioned themselves to react to worry. I understand this reaction. I see the causes and processes that generate the worry. Granted, there’s a reasonable cause to do so. But I feel it’s very important we start becoming aware of how and what we actively think. The reason for this awareness is that if we’re focused on worries all the time, what do you think it is we’ll most likely attract to ourselves? What do you think will show up in our lives? That’s right, something to worry about.

This cycle of unintentional thought patterning gives us the sensation that our worry is justified. We can solidify this justification but why? The solidifying of worry justification just perpetuates the cycle. Why not subvert the cycle? I feel it’s urgent we start to realize that even though we feel our worries are justified we can lessen their blow and step off this cycle by changing how and what we actively think about. Becoming aware that we’re focusing on worry is the first step. Once we’re aware of what we’re actively thinking then we can begin to shift our thoughts. 

I have talked to my mom about this and suggested to her that she should try focusing on something happy. I told her, “Try focusing on your grandkids or the love you have for your own kids when worry comes in and overpowers your thinking process.” 

If we’re focused on how we feel in the present moment by lovingly thinking about our loved ones and not worrying about them, our mental intention shifts and so does the energy we send out. This way we can become optimistic about the worry we had and hope for the best instead of dreading the worst. In essence, when we do this we send out a blessing instead of a curse. 

Anything that makes us feel good can help shift our mental intentions and the energy we send out. Especially if that something is useful or helpful. For me, contemplating, studying, and writing about spiritual philosophy and things of that nature works wonders. In my mom’s case, she likes to quilt, sew, and craft. In both situations, I’d like to think we pour out our love (not worry) into the projects we’re working on to create something helpful or useful. 

Another useful and helpful way we can shift our thinking is to do something like volunteer work in the fields we’re passionate about. This can shift our mental intention from worry to bringing someone else joy, happiness, or insight. For example, if I was able to (I’m not because I’m an inmate in prison), I’d love to volunteer for the Big Brothers program and support less fortunate foster kids who don’t have families. I’d also love to talk to and work with juveniles who have found their way into the criminal justice system. Not to lecture them or “scare them straight” but to share with them my personal experience. I’ve been there and done that and I can empathize with their situations. Maybe the knowledge and wisdom I’ve gained from living a past criminal lifestyle and learning how to work through the issues that influenced my criminal decisions would be helpful for them. I’d enjoy sharing my insight into how I became something other than a criminal. However we decide to do it, lessening someone else’s worry can have a direct and dramatic effect on our own worry. 

There are lots of ways we can tailor this to our own personal liking. Whatever it is, if we do something that makes us feel good in a benevolent way, it shifts our mental intention and our energy pattern and it changes our focus. This trifecta lessens our burden of worry. When we catch ourselves focusing on worry, we can tell ourselves, “All the worry in the world isn’t going to make this any better.” Remember, if we can’t do something to make whatever it is we’re personally worried about any better, we can always do something to make it better for someone else. Keep that in mind the next time worry tries to overpower your thinking process. 

As food for thought in closing, contemplate this. What do you think would happen if everyone started to shift their thinking and doing process? Could we not only eventually eliminate the worry process but also eliminate the things we worry about? Hmm … something to think about. 

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