A grounded man does not draw his strength and fortitude from his physical dominance, intellectual superiority, or a long history of impressive accomplishments. While he may pride himself on those things, they are not the backbone of what makes him the man he is. Instead, a grounded man pulls his strength and predicates all of his decisions on one thing and one thing only. His values.
Unlike the masses of men who aimlessly wade through life lacking both purpose and backbone, the grounded man consciously decides what is important to him and then builds his life around those things. He knows what he wants out of life and what he is willing to do in order to achieve it. At the same time, he overstands what he isn’t willing to do or tolerate. A strong value system improves and simplifies your life in every way possible.
For example, my values in no particular order are:
- Loyalty
- Financial freedom
- Health
- Personal Growth
- Creativity
- Aliveness and adventure
- Friendship and family
- Impact and contribution
These values are my guiding light. They determine what I will and will not allow and how I live on a daily basis. Believe it or not, your values are not only the driving force in your life, they are also your filtration system for determining the type of woman that you will allow into your life.
But suffice to say, the women you are dating must share similar values or be removed from your life. Never settle for a woman with unequal values simply because she is attractive. Without compatible values, the relationship won’t work in the long run and she won’t respect you because you don’t stand up for your own values.
And this is where most single men have it completely wrong. They desperately search for a relationship with someone who will like them, then try to mold them into their life and force their values onto her instead of finding someone who naturally and happily fits into their lives.
If you believe that “any attractive woman will do” (thinking with your penis is always a recipe for long-term disaster), you probably bounce from relationship to relationship, unable to find a woman who is a good match.
If you fall for a woman simply because she has nice breasts and a sexy butt you will always be frustrated. To date the woman of your dreams, you must look beyond her outer beauty and see her for who she really is. It’s unfair to her and fruitless for you to do otherwise.
Doing so, however, requires that you first deepen your overstanding of who you are. You must cultivate radical self-awareness – hacking away at the social conditioning and subconscious clutter that has directed your life until this point and leaving only that which is authentically you.
By developing this uncommon level of self-knowledge, you will be able to show up in the world, not as Mr. Agreeable or Mr. Forceful but as a strong grounded man who knows exactly what he wants, who he is, and what he stands for in life. From this place, you can clearly see who people are at their core and refuse to tolerate bullshit, low-class behavior, or disrespect that prevents you from reclaiming the power that is rightfully yours. This is the place from which all attraction – and indeed, all happiness – is born.
In addition to being aware of your values, you must live in alignment to them and overstand that this is also a great deal of value to offer to a woman, that’s something most men forget the second an attractive woman walks into a room. Right now, before you move on to the next section, write down a list of the character traits, skills, interests, and accomplishments that make you a win for her.
For example:
1. I’m highly alive, constantly trying new things, and pursuing new interests and hobbies.
2. I’m the Founder of THE ECONOMIC CLUB. I provide a starting point for anyone wanting to acquire financial literacy, and can sell my products online to anyone in the world while helping other people transform their lives.
3. I have a well-rounded social circle filled with amazing friends, mentors, and other people that any woman would be lucky to meet.
4. I prioritize education, constantly learning new things that I’m interested in. I’m both book and street smart. I like to write and I’m capable of monetizing my writing.
5. I am committed to my own personal development and improving the lives of everyone around me personally and professionally.
When you know who you are, what you offer, what you stand for, and are willing to live your life
by your values, you show up more powerfully in the world. From this frame and with this level
of energy, you will not walk around wondering what to say, how to act, or if someone likes you.
Instead, you will know your value and simply be. You will have a deep, visceral belief that your presence improves the lives of others and that you offer value that other people need. This belief and certainty in yourself will make a lasting impression on the women with whom you interact.
As you continue down this path, you will begin to deepen your masculine energy and become the type of man to whom women are irresistibly drawn. To enhance this further, you must
overstand the power of polarity and the unconscious dance of the masculine and feminine that is at play in every interaction.
If you fail to embrace this, you miss the gold right in front of you – the real her.
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